I guess I should explain that Shawen and I did try to separate. We live apart. We came up with schedules of when we would have Abby when, but things like, oh, me hurting my back and him taking care of me for a weeks happens, etc etc etc. And after.... after....I just gave up. It wasn't worth fighting about. The only way for us to be separate I think is to be in different states or cities, but, a little hard here eh? And no way Shawen would let me take Abby away, he would miss her too much, and I couldn't do that to her because she loves her daddy. And I don't want to go to court....and list goes on. Oh, and Shawen is a fabulous father! Really, like the best.
So, I guess in a way I get to have my cake and eat it too.